Week 3

 Boundaries

In class, we talked a lot about boundaries. It was very interesting to me. It made me think that what kind of boundaries I have. Brother Williams talked about 3 kinds of boundaries. Rigid, open, and clear boundaries. I don’t think it is hard to have clear boundaries because we all have different standards of boundaries. It also made me think that which boundaries I have with my family. I have a few secrets with my parents such as who I am dating. I don’t want them to care too much about it. Also, I am not sure that if they have secrets about me. However, I talk to them frequently about life. I don’t feel that we have a tall barrier as a family. However, there is room for improvement, we can still be more open to each other. 

Family therapy role play

It was so fun to see what was going on. Also, it was interesting to observe what the therapist is trying to do for the family. At the beginning of this role play, Brother Williams said that children would most likely. sit by mom. I was thinking of my family. At least, I would sit by my mom if I am still young. I don’t care now, but I feel like I shared a lot more things with my mom than dad. In class, we discussed the reasons why children would sit by mom. One of the most interesting reasons I got was that dad is working throughout the day. It is hard to hang out or have time with my father. Even if, dad tries to spend time with kids, it would be less than mom spend time with kids in a normal family. Personally, I would sit by mom because mom listens to me a lot better. I love my dad now, but when I was a teenager, he told me what I should do. I hated it so much, so I didn’t want to have a conversation with him at all. I tried to avoid him like I pretended I was sleeping when he got home. Now I know why he told me what to do because he loved me, he wanted me to succeed. However, I don’t think that is the way that dad should be doing. It was a short role-play, but I was able to learn a lot. It made me think so much about what I should do, and how I should do it when I become a father. I feel like family relation is up to parents how they act.

From Prep assignment

This week, I was able to watch many videos. One thing that stood out to me was the first video. They show two different pictures. One of them was the picture of an old man stands in front of his old house. People are saying that he is lower class. The interesting thing was that I had the same thought. You can that at least, he doesn’t’ look rich. Another one was a middle-aged couple who wear fine clothes. They put smiles on their face as well. They look a lot happier than the old man. People thought they are upper class. I had the same thought as well. The most interesting thing from those pictures was the different moods of those two. I was thinking that money might make happiness these days. I thought a happy family wouldn’t depend on money, but if you don’t have money for living, they wouldn’t be happy. It motivates me to study and work hard, so I can take care of my family, and make them happy in the future.

In general, this week made me think about how to make a balance between working and taking care of my family. I will be working for my family in the future, but I have to spend time with my family as well. My family would be the first to me, but if I work too much, they might not think that I love them. I haven't made my decision, but this is something that I continue to seek about.

2021.10.01.Friday

Hyeon