Week 6

Week 6

This week, we have been studying dating. It is something that college students are interested in. I am too. I was able to learn the difference between dating and hanging out. I was confused that what is dating. I thought I hung out with many girls, but others told me those are dating. I was unsure what was dating. However, I learned that what the date is. Elder Oaks said that we should go on dates more and we don't need to put much meaning in it. In Korea, I think many members put much meaning to dates. For example, I am dating this guy to know if he is the one that I can marry. They are thinking a lot about marriage while they are dating. It makes dating harder. But, in America, they just go on date to get to know each other. They didn't mean it too much other than getting to know. I think that is some culture that the members in Korea need to take. Also, dating is planned. I think this is a huge difference. I wouldn't plan for hanging out. I will just meet them and go wherever we want to go. However, I would have specific plans for dating. I would ask my partner what they like to do and eat then I will plan it out. I would pay for her as well. I wouldn't want to be with others as well.  I would want to talk with her to get to know her. I cleared myself that what dating is.

In the reading, I read about physical attraction. I think it is kind of interesting to know that physical attraction is a huge part of the relation between men and women. I was able to understand that why God gave us the Law of Chastity. God delights the chastity of women. In order to keep it, we have to protect it together. There are many ways to share the love of each other. It is best to avoid the situation that we might break the commandment of God.

Last night, I was able to talk with my FHE group. I asked them questions about the culture of dating in America. It was kind of different. We were talking about how to approach someone who you are interested in. We had so many different thoughts, but my Korean friend and I disagreed few things that the FHE group shared. I guess Korean dating culture is more careful than here. I found out that the church in Korea is way smaller than here, so the rumor could spread throughout the church. It gives them pressure that their relationship has to work out. I think that is why the member in Korea hesitate to ask people out. I guess I shouldn't be afraid to ask sisters out for getting to know them.

One of my favorite quote is  that says, "The life is all about the timing." If you found someone to date or even get married, you might not be able to do that because you might not be ready or your situation is not allowing you at the moment. I think it is up to us to be prepared to take someone. I know that I can find someone according to how much I am prepared for dating or marriage. Because of that I thought about how I can prepare myself.  I think I should rely on the Lord, so I can partake the blessings that God has prepared for me. Also, I should have plans for my future. I have to find a job, so I can be stable financially. I think this is something that I really consider and ponder about. I think this time is the best time for me to prepare myself more.

Hyeon Jang

2021.10.22.Friday