Week 7

Week 7

This week, we have been talking about dating and marriage. I think that is something that people are thinking about especially you are a member of the church. As a member, I believe that marriage is essential in the plan of Salvation. Also, I know that family can be together forever. It means that I should carefully find a wife that I can love and live with forever. That is why we talked a lot about dating last week. Once you finally feel that you can get married to her or him, you might have to prepare for the marriage. I think that would be so difficult as well because there are so many things that you have to figure out like housing and planning for a marriage event. I recognized that marriage is not something that you can do easily even though you love someone so bad.

At the beginning of the assignment, I read that most Americans want to get married. I am not sure if it is true, but it is different than where I grew up. In Korea, many younger people don't plan for getting married. They care so much about their career, so they push back marriage after studying or working. Also, most of us including me think that you have to have money for married life. It means that if you are not stable financially, you would have to prepare yourself financially. I am not sure if it is the same here. People in Korea think that they can live without marriage. It makes them put other things over other than marriage. 

This problem in Korea made me think about the question that had been asked during the class.

What are the benefits of marriage?

I would have eternal support from my spouse. I think that is the biggest benefit I could have from married life. Also, I would be able to have my children. Most of the married couples said that it was so hard to describe how much joy they had when they had their baby. Once you have your own family, you could only focus on your family. You might have to take more responsibility, but everything will be settled. Those are the benefits that I could think of. Also, those are the reason I want to get married.

On the other hand, I thought about the problems that might be caused after married.

I thought it was funny that they might have sleeping problems. It was explained during the class. It was so funny. Marriage is different than dating. Being married means that you are going to live with your spouse. It means that you have to share basically and hopefully everything. Personally, it would be hard for most of us. I would hope that married couple knows each other well enough such as life-style. Sharing is something that you and your spouse have to accept something even though those are hard for you to take. They have to figure things out. It depends on the couple, but it might take a long time than you could think of. 

I was thinking that how married couples could figure out the conflict they might have right after marriage. I think that have to acknowledge that they are different people. Their growing environments were different, so they should understand each other. Also, they need to make decisions together, so they both can know things that what is going on in their family. That is something that I would want to do after I get married.

In the class, one of the students said that our number one relationship is our heavenly father. When we put the relationship with Him first, every relationship would work out just fine. I strongly agree that is so true. When you and your spouse have the same goal, it will make you have a better relationship between those two. I saw that happen during my mission. My companion and I were different, but we work towards the same goal of preaching the Gospel of Christ. It worked out really well. We saw many miracles.

I really liked last two weeks' topic. Since I am a YSA, those topics are interesting to me. It was fun.

Hyeon Jang

2021.10.29.Fri