Week 12

 Week 12

This week, we also talked about parenting for a bit. I was wondering how children would be grown if they didn't feel love from their parents. When I was young I didn't think that I feel love from my parents, but when I look back, my parents showed love so much to me. So, it is kind of hard for me to understand those who didn't think they felt love. I have a friend that complained a lot about his mother. I mean he could have conflict when I heard about the story of his mom. I am not sure what happened to his dad, but he didn't really talk about him. He is the only son in his family, so his mother takes care of his everything. When he doesn't get back home late, she would call him every 30 minutes to make sure he is okay. It can be one way of showing love depending on the point of view, but I think it is too much because he is an adult now. There are a lot more things like this. He doesn't want to go back home. He doesn't think he has freedom at home. What I get out of this is that home needs to be a safe place for children. Also, I strongly think that it is parents' job to make it safe and comfortable. In order to do that, parents need to find how their own children feel love. They might need to practice showing their love to their children. I read some articles that said that children who felt love while they were growing up, they have more self-confidence. When parents do the right thing for their kids, kids would do the right thing like their parents. Children need to learn how they can show love to others. It is up to parents' parenting skills.

Another topic of this week was divorce and remarriage. It is kind of not realistic for me because I am not even married yet. It was weird to think about those two. However, I have seen a few couples get divorced even in the church. It wasn't common in the church in Korea, but it is getting common. I think the mindset on divorce is changing in Korea, so that affected the church couples as well. Divorce is getting easier for young couples. I think it happens because people are focusing on themselves more than others. Their own happiness is getting important than happiness as a couple. Because people pursue their lives, they don't hesitate to get a divorce as much as in the past. In the past, people cared a lot about others' views in Korea. It made them not get divorced even though a couple had problems that continued. However, young people don't care about others as much because the most important thing is their own. Because I have seen a few cases of people who are divorced, I become more careful about getting married. It is a huge blessing, so I don't want it to end sadly. 

Also, remarriage is not familiar to me at least. I don't think I have seen it around me. However, I agree with remarriage because I would feel alone in the future if I am not with anyone. In Korea, people think that remarriage is not a really good thing to do in general because it is not common, and people might be biased to think that one of them did something wrong in their past relationship. I mean I would think like that. However, I know there are many reasons for remarriage. It can also help them find happiness in their lives. Remarriage would never be an easy decision to make. I hope I don't even need to think about remarriage, but I wouldn't judge others for remarriage.

Hyeon Jang

2021.12.03.Fri